Take it or leave it, prostitution is one of the oldest professions in human history. Prostitution is simply the act of exchanging sex for money. Buying or selling sex. No wonder another name for prostitute is commercial sex worker.
But why do men buy sex? Why do they visit prostitutes? So many experts have propounded several theories about why men, both married and single, buy sex from commercial sex workers.
Below are some of the reasons:
1. No string attached
Sex with a prostitute is just sex. Sex with a non-prostitute tends to come with a lot of strings. Men who just want sex, with no emotional obligations attached usually prefer to buy such from prostitutes. The only thing that exchange hand apart from sex is money. There is no need to call the next day to check on a prostitute.
“There is, at a minimum, a certain set of social obligations that comes along for the ride. Casual sex is fraught with strings, too. If I’m looking for sex, I am not looking to give or praise performance. I don’t want the mental debate over whether to call the next day nor fending off expectations shared by only one of the parties,” a patron said.
2. Sex Addiction
Paying for sex is exactly the same as any other sexually compulsive behaviour in that it is part of a pattern of intimacy avoidance. What is the addict escaping from when he is avoiding intimacy with a partner? It is not that the prostitute has so much more to offer than the spouse, says sexaddictcounsel.com.
The sex addict experiences intimate bonds as frightening and overwhelming. Being with a prostitute is safe, limited and controlled interaction. The addict can relax and feel safe from the dangers of getting hurt, abandoned, rejected or feeling inadequate. The sex addict feels unlovable and insecure and meets his needs for sexual abandon in a contrived, compartmentalized way.
Sex addicts feel bad about their addictive behavior afterward but they continue to do it. If a man who is not an addict visits a prostitute he may feel many things but he will not be driven to repeat the experience.
3. Sexual insecurity
I believe a lot of men are deeply insecure about pleasing women sexually, and sexually engaging one of the many, willing, lovely, etc women implies an obligation that the encounter is good for them too. I’d expect that this expectation is lowered in paid encounters, and the chance of being humiliated because expectations and obligations were not met is drastically lowered, a user on Quora noted.
While having sex with a wife of a regular sex partner, one of the aim is to let the sexual partner enjoy the act. Unfortunately, too much concentration is put on this feeling that it eventually turns out to become a form of insecurity. The man starts feeling inadequate. So in order to avoid this feeling of in security, many turn to prostitute who doesn’t care whether they are good or not in bed. The bottomline for them is money.
4. The need to be in control
Since the whole thing is paid for, men who feel the need to always be in control prefer to visit commercial sex workers. Yes, the customer is always right and so they direct everything that goes on during such encounters. The way that encounters with prostitutes work is that the whole experience can be directed and controlled by the user to be tailored to their individual needs and fantasies. It isn’t about making love or considering the physical and emotional needs of anyone else anymore; it’s just about selfish sex, and some men are unfortunately wired to enjoy this without any conscious thought for their partners.
5. Variety
While sex with a regular partner may be enjoyable to many, still many believe that variety is the spice if life and that should come to the issue of sex too. Many men who visit prostitute want to sample the experience of being with different types of people. Many of them claim to get bored with a single partner even when the sex styles are constantly varied.
