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This is crap, life coach tells Tobi Bakre’s mom over marital counsel [Video]


Solomon Buchi

Motivational Speaker and life coach, Solomon Buchi, has criticised Tobi Bakre’s mother over her stand on marriage.

This is coming after the Big Brother Naija reality star celebrated his parents’ 29-year-old marriage with a two-part clip showing his parents dishing out marital counsel to aspiring couple.

Solomon Buchi however, took to his Instagram page to shade Tobi’s mom saying it is horrendous to know that women still think this way.

The life coach further described Tobi’s mom counsel as total crap adding that “marriage is no effing trophy for women and they must not take any crap in it just because a man feels he’s given her some medal by getting married to her”.

Solomon Buchi wrote;


“@tobibakre’s mom shared tips on how to hold up your marriage as a woman on their 29th marriage anniversary and this is one sad thing I’ve heard recently.

It is horrendous to know that women still think this way, and moreso a woman who has a son and daughters. Is this what she’d pass to them? Habilitating men’s irresponsibility and lack of commitment in marriage relationships?

This is total crap. If a woman is expected to give full commitment, why shouldn’t a man do so too? She even said the woman should be happy at least that he married her, and she shouldn’t complain if he goes out. This is disturbing, and even more that some young women also think this way.

Marriage is no effing trophy for women and they must not take any crap in it just because a man feels he’s given her some medal by getting married to her.

It’s high time we called men to their senses. We should stop fostering this menace. Commitment is not exclusive to the female gender.

This mindset of ‘let him be as far as he comes back home and takes care of you’ is ludicrous. What if he brings back diseases and infects you? Even if he doesn’t infect you, it’s total disrespect on the marriage to have mistresses outside. It is emotional abuse.

Dear modern woman, this is the last thing you should ever do. If your hubby is a serial cheat. Walk away! Somehow men still cheat because they know women will make up excuses and settle for them. You won’t take all this shit when you stop seeing having a man like a trophy, because you’ll go for a quality man, not just a chauvinistic and misogynistic animal with a dangling penis that knows no boundaries.

She talked about how other women will take over if you leave your cheating hubby. Phew! It’s either you have the whole of a man or no man at all. Man no be life. Let others come and take over the crap please.

The counsel in this video should never be taken serious. It is old fashioned, obtuse, dehumanizing and doesn’t say anything beautiful about women getting married.

When I say our parents took a lot of crap just to stay together but that’s ending. It has to be a marriage filled with love and commitment or no marriage at all.”

He went further to address netizens who had lambasted and called him horrible names in the comment section.

“You don’t have to agree with me but I remain it is crap. It is high time we held men accountable. That rubbish era has passed. This is crap and it’s sad that even Tobi has the guts to post this. Like with so much excitement.

“This is sad. We can do better. Cuss me all you want to but this is crap. Marriage should between a man who’s committed and a woman who’s committed too. Not a committed woman and a man who’s philandering but she keeps enduring. Thank you,” the life coach said

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