A Nigerian lawyer has advised women to look beyond bringing the domestics into their relationship, saying value a woman brings to her marriage should be something uncommon.

The lawyer, a lady identified as Ifeoma Solanke, said this through her Twitter handle, @Ifeoma_Solanke.

She opined that most men want something from than wives than cooking of foods, laying of bed, and other chores.

Using her personal experience as an example, Solanke wrote:

My ex was not all bad to me. I had good conversations with him as taciturn as he was and here’s one of them. E: So as a husband, I do all I’m supposed to do for you, what will you do? I started ranting : I’ll cook your food, lay your bed, wash your clothes’

The words did not come out right, but what did I know. I had just finished school. Unfortunately for me, he said, ‘I’m not marrying a maid’. I felt even worse. Lol! He was sensible enough to want to know what else after the domestic.

Bottom line is, when you talk about the kind of value you should add to your husband, to your family as a woman, it should be something uncommon. Something he cannot get from his maid or any other woman. I learnt that day, that it goes beyond being a domestic wife.

The society teaches a girl child to be a domestic wife but are emphasis really laid on the other core values. Most men are not after these things. It’s even worse when the man can do them himself.

What value can u add to your husband? Can u be his prayer warrior? Can he trust u with his business deals, can u be his alter ego? Can he trust u to make decisions on his behalf and u don’t flop? Are you the kind of woman that sells your husband’s brand or you will be a sell out?

I could go on… Think about it. Have more, know your worth, don’t settle for less. I have long grown beyond the domestic and it is as basic as anything. I am still on me, moulding, working on me, my values…

My ex was not all bad to me. I had good conversations with him as taciturn as he was and here’s one of them.

E: So as a husband, I do all I’m supposed to do for you, what will you do?
I started ranting : I’ll cook your food, lay your bed, wash your clothes’…

— YOUR LAWYER ⚖️ (@Ifeoma_Solanke) May 25, 2019