I am pregnant! Those three words scare men a lot. Both married and single men dread the news of pregnancy when it is coming out of wedlock.

Pregnancy news has led to the end of many relationships, turning many ladies with resolve to keep the baby, to single mothers popularly known as baby mamas. In some cases, the news is received with gladness by the men involved.

A South African lady took to Twitter recently to share her pregnancy experience and how her man reacted to the news.

The lady identified as Karabo Maisela said the father of her child and his family denied responsibility after she turned down his request to abort the pregnancy.

“So yeah his family called my family and told them I’m a slut so they can’t claim the baby, he went awol for a while then bam, back again,” she wrote.

Maisela shared screenshots of her WhatsApp conversation with the man who she said went awol for over six months while she was pregnant and returned a few weeks to her delivery time to check up on her and her pregnancy.

“Anyway, I couldn’t tell if he really did want to participate or he was just doing me a favor by pretending, but till this day, almost a year later I’m still waiting for the call lol. So that’s how I concluded he’s dead.”

She said her experience made her subscribe to the school of thought that ‘men are trash’.

She tweeted:

“We tweet here religiously that men are Trash and some people still don’t get why, here’s one subsection on the feminist agenda as to why we call them the trash they are, because they participate willingly in the act of baby making but get to run away from the responsibility cos patriarchy excuses them by virtue of not having a womb.

“As long as they aren’t carrying and breastfeeding, then they aren’t needed in the equation. They slut shame, embarrass us, and leave us with heaps of trauma some of us won’t have the time to deal with. Today I have time.“

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After narrating her story, she also asked other single mothers on Twitter to share their experiences.

“I just want hear other women’s stories and hear about the unspoken trauma we carry with us that isn’t important enough to speak about because we have a baby to focus on and “men will be men”.

Her call for stories has evoked torrential reactions from single moms most of whom preferred to share their stories anonymously.

See screenshots of her WhatsApp conversation:

 

 

See some of the reactions:

 

Then for another 6 months, he was on and off, by that time I was still a student. Since 2017, our communication was on and off & he’s been telling he’s unemployed. So I assume he last had a job in 2016.

— Melanin Goddess ?✨ (@Avela_Zilani1) October 25, 2019

 

 

 

He denied
He once sent me 750 ksh which is 7usd that can only buy one pack of diapers and he sent this after a year
I sent him back the money and told him that he should leave me and my son alone since he went telling people the child isn’t his
Its 6 years now he isn’t in our

— AtienoOtieno (@mama_hawi) October 25, 2019

I told him over the phone that i am pregnant and worried,he send my mom a message apologizing and promising to take responsibility of taking care of the child.i was in grade 12 hence the stress.

— Boitumelo Anastasi Mokgobu (@Anastasi_Tumelo) October 25, 2019

I wanted to abort my child my baby daddy said this is your 1st pregnancy what if this is ur last pregnancy. He has passed on but grateful for making me keep my baby & what a great human he was?he may have f’d up in other areas but I’ll respect him always. not all men are trash

— Maphuthi Matube (@Phuthibabes) October 26, 2019

Then I shift my focus from the father.Then give my gorgeous boy ?% full love and attention.I surrendered everything to God.Being a single mom not easy but to be honest with you. I don’t know how I’ve done it.God turned things around,& gave me strength that I’ve never seen before

— ❤TryphinaKagiso❤ (@TryphinaKagiso) October 25, 2019

So sorry you went through that, all I got was the response “Awww pregnant”, by 4 months in after being hospitalized I knew I was going to do it alone, even when I gave birth all he could say “how did it go”no support, nothing but 1k a month… some men out there show u flames

— Diane Tshiunza (@DianeTshiunza) October 25, 2019

The last time e the father saw him was when he was 6months ??

Honestly I feel its better that he isn’t present coz my kid deserve so much more than someone that “decides” when it’s convenient to be a parent.

You aren’t alone and it’ll be okay ????‍♀️

— ??????. (@lee_latz) October 25, 2019

❤️ Love your decision

— Karabo (@TheeeAnswer_) October 25, 2019

And yet he decided to not be a present father the entire 6weeks that our daughter stayed in NICU because she was born prematurely. The first time he laid eyes on her was after her 1st birthday. He’s been financially consistent and now trying to be present so re tla bona ka yena

— Millicent Mabotha ? (@milly_centiie) October 25, 2019