Famed recorded executive, Michael Collins Ajereh popularly called Don Jazzy, has described husbands who take pride in disrespecting their wives because of bride price as shallow-minded.
The beats producer aired his displeasure in a tweet to his six million followers on his verified Twitter handle on Friday.
According to the Mavin Record boss, men who fall under the category need education, noting that the payment of bride price is not a pass for them to treat their spouses like a piece of trash.
“So apparently some of the men that disrespect and treat their wives like sh*t do so becos they paid some useless bride price. Kai, how do we educate the multitude with this shallow mindset?” he tweeted.
Jazzy’s opinion was re-echoed by a fan with the username @iam_jayCheqs who argued that the tradition of payment of bride price should be scrapped.
He wrote: “I’ve always said the bride price tradition needs to go. It holds no water in this modern time and age. What is the purpose? And why won’t a man feel like he owns a person after paying for her?”
Although another fan @oncle_thereal agreed that the tradition of bride price is wrong, he, however, argued that culture should not be sacrificed on the altar of modernization.
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“Like Don said, people need to be Educated. Culture should not be lost or sacrificed on the altar of Modernization. The culture of paying bride price in itself isn’t wrong or bad in itself it’s the individual mindset that makes things seem wrong. Hence, educating people better,” he wrote.
While some blamed culture and faulted the payment of bride price for domestic violence, @Oluwaefosa1001 disagreed with Jazzy and those urging the abolition of the culture of bride price by saying that “Some domestic violence were as a result of how they see their father treat their mother.”
His opinion was backed up by @WhyteAbel who added that “Most men whose father abused their mothers are the best husbands. Do your research thoroughly. Men that disrespect their wives do so based on silly masculine ego.”
The debate was, however, switched back when @EbyangelD asked “Does that chicken change grant access to own someone? Men can never understand that a woman is doing him a favour to bear his name and his children… Women are meant to be submissive!”
This is just as @teefire112 argued that tradition cannot be changed.
“The problem isn’t even with the tradition. It’s with the mindset. That’s why women shouldn’t marry fools. Even in the bible, there was bride price. I don’t own my wife because I paid her bride price I own her she owns me cause we decided to own each other and I’ll treat her as my most cherished possession. It’s like paying for a Rolls Royce and using it to pack trash afterwards,” he said.
However, @morganaliticus remained adamant that the tradition of payment of bride price must be scrapped.
“I think the whole bride price system should go tbh… Cos some cultures make the whole process seem like a sort of trade, which shouldn’t be. You hear questions like; “do you know she is a doctor” “do you know how much was spent for her education” It really doesn’t help at all.”
Also reacting to the comment, @OghuvwuE stated that “You don’t blame it on culture, it’s the stupidity of the men, you should blame it on or rather think on how to educate,or deal with them! those men are just useless not the bride price! please be guided and leave this culture and traditions alone!”
