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Mr Right Now is not better than Mr Right, CNN’s Stephanie Busari warns, shares her divorce story

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Stephanie Busari, an editor with CNN international, has warned young ladies not to allow pressure from parents and society to push them to marry a wrong partner.

Busari in a series of tweets via her verified Twitter handle warned young ladies not to make the mistake of thinking the available man “Mr Right Now” is better than “Mr Right”, saying such a mistake could lead to an unhappy marriage.

Sharing the story of her failed marriage which would have turned 10 years on Thursday 12 December, Busari revealed how pressure pushed her to get married to her estranged husband and how she ended up feeling miserable in an unhappy marriage that later ended in divorce after three years of endurance.

She, however, noted that her ex-husband was not a bad person, but they were not just compatible which made their union fail, an error she advised the younger ones to avoid.

Busari tweeted:

“Ten years ago today I got married. It lasted 3 years and I came away with a beautiful daughter and a heart full of (some) regrets. Does one mark such an auspicious occasion? Or just quietly acknowledge as one of the hopes and dreams that didn’t quite pan out?

“I rarely talk about my personal life, but I speak to so many young women feeling pressure to get married because of an imaginary timeline or a ticking biological clock.

“These women feel like Mr Right Now is better than Mr Right, as long as they become a Mrs. Please DON’T do it! The sadness of an unhappy marriage and home seeps into your soul. It is crushing and turns you into a shell of who you are.

“10 years later, and I am still so sad at how miserable I was. My ex-husband was not a bad person, but we were just desperately incompatible. Even I was surprised we ended up together! Make sure and be doubly sure and be sure again before you say I do.

“I got married largely due to pressure. It enveloped me like a cloud. Every time an embossed handwritten envelope thudded through the letterbox ‘inviting the pleasure of my parents company.’ I heard my mother’s heavy sigh, my father’s questioning glances.

“Despite all my achievements, I was flying high in my career. I had bought a flat, all before 30, I felt like a failure because I wasn’t married. Parents have their own timeline for your life. You must create and embrace yours and BE HAPPY with your choices.”

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