Relationship therapist, Blessing CEO, has identified excessive communication and social media use as key factors contributing to the failure of many modern marriages.
In an interview, she explained that the decline of traditional community support systems, which historically helped couples resolve conflicts, has worsened marital problems today.
Blessing also discussed how women’s independence, while empowering, can sometimes create tension in relationships.
She pointed out that although independence is positive, it may lead some women to become overly assertive or competitive, which could threaten their husbands’ sense of masculinity.
She advised women to preserve their femininity and softness, even when successful, to maintain harmony in their marriages.
According to Blessing, men’s insecurity is not about their wives’ achievements, but rather about how those successes affect their masculine identity.
She warned that when women “drag shoulders” with their husbands—meaning becoming confrontational or overly competitive—it can result in infidelity or divorce.
“In our generation, because I am working and earning money, even if I am quarrelling with my husband, what do I need to go to my husband for? Once a woman becomes independent, they begin to rub shoulders with men.
“A lot of people say that whenever a woman becomes successful, the man becomes insecure. The truth is that no man is intimidated by your success; they are only afraid of the masculinity that comes with success.
“So women should always remember to be soft, no matter how much you have, because once you start to drag shoulders with your husband, he begins to cheat and look for a woman who is softer, or he leaves the marriage,” Blessing CEO said.
