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At 65, I was raped, my rapist complained I was not wet, I replied widows don’t get wet – Taiwo Ajai-Lycett
Nollywood bigwig, Taiwo Ajai-Lycett, has shared some specific details of her life very few people knew and while they are inspiring, they are also extremely painful.
The 78-year-old actress, journalist, television presenter, and cosmetologist – in a The Nation interview – shared her path and journey through life, explaining that she was disowned by her family, had a child at 15 years, was a victim of domestic violence, was a widow at 52, and was raped at the age of 65.
According to the veteran, one of her rapists would later come to seek forgiveness.
Overall, Ajai-Lycett said she went through fire and emerged fortified.
She said,
“I have been through the fire, I emerged fortified. I was 15 years old when I had a child. By 16, I was on my own. I knew I was going to get a good education. I was going to be a lawyer.
“But I knew that I was on my own. My family disowned me. I married one David Akinduro in 1959 after I relocated to the U.K, but I left him due to domestic violence.
“I met Thomas Lycett long after I divorced my first husband. Eventually, I married him. We had a blissful marriage. He died when I was 52-years-old. I remember him every day.
“He was the one that told me that I was better off being an actor. In 2006, I was robbed and raped in my house in Egbe. I was tied. I was beaten. I was brutalized. My health was ruined.
“I was blindfolded and raped. The man who raped me complained that he couldn’t gain easy entry into me because I wasn’t wet. I told him ‘widows don’t get wet.’
“I kept talking to them and asked them repeatedly, ‘Are you doing this to your mother?’ Angrily, they taped my mouth but I remained fearless and prayed all through the attack.
“The police came. They expected me to pursue the case. I knew the masterminds. I could have gotten them incarcerated but I simply moved on.
“Look at me today, I am over it. See, the mind is a beautiful thing. When you hold on to past hurt, you tie yourself down to grief. You get infected with its poison.
“Rather than wallow in grief and self-pity, I picked myself up and sought medical help, ensuring that they hadn’t infected me with any STD.. That same year, the Obasanjo government got me the Officer of the Order of the Niger (OON) national honour.
“Few years later, One of them came to prostrate before me, pleading for my forgiveness. I told him to seek forgiveness from God. I told him that I had moved on.”
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