Maintaining an exciting and active sexual life among couples is challenging, when the romance dies, the blame game emerges. According to sex therapist, Funmi Akingbade, women often blame their lack of interest in sexual relationships on their husbands. In many cases, however, the women are to blame
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Here are five common sex mistakes women make, according to Akingbade:
Waiting for your husband to initiate sex
Wives find it difficult to initiate sex with their husbands and just conclude that well, if he wants it, let him tell me. This is actually partly traditional upbringing and partly female ego. Husbands desire to be pursued by their wives too. Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles inhibits sexual satisfaction in relationships.
Dwelling on your looks
Thinking about how you look during sex, stops you from enjoying yourself, and it ruins your chances of having an orgasm. Scientifically, husbands are temporarily and selectively blinded to body flaws during sex. They are much more attracted to women who show signs of healthy sexual life and youthfulness of mindset and fertility.
Regulating sex times
Sex should not be limited to a timetable or time of day, it should be done whenever each couple feels like, that way it is spontaneous and exciting.
Attributing your husband’s declining libido to extra-marital affairs
Now, there are cases when a wife wonders why her husband is not interested in sex as she is and she immediately concludes he is having an affair. No! This is a gross mistake. The point is that, at the teenage stage of a man’s life, they are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but as they grow old in the relationship and the pressure of responsibilities overweighs them, the tide may change and a paradigm shift may occur. When you hear your husband say he is not in the mood for sex, it is not an indication that they are no longer in love with you.
Refusing to spice things up
I can categorically say that good and sensitive husbands do listen to their wives, particularly if such wives are quite wisely clear, romantic and respectful about it. And if your husband happens to suggest some sexual act that is not within your familiarity zone, please rather than get upset and say no to sex until further notice, do kindly deliberate over such. This is so because when a married couple have been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety [the joy of novelty is still winning at all times]. Just because your husband wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or he has tasted some call girls outside and they did it better or he is no longer excited with your sex life. In short, don’t take it personal.
