There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to have sex. Sex is about you and your partner enjoying yourselves and getting maximum fulfilment without feeling used.
Sex means different things to different people. There’s a huge range of sexual things that you can do especially if you have done something legal and consensual then it’s no body’s business but your own.
What should really matter is it feels right for you and your partner. But let’s leave propriety, sex should be fun, safe and with someone you feel comfortable with.
As the famous Vince Lombardi quote goes, “Practice does not make perfect. Only perfect practice makes perfect.”
When it comes to sex there are certain insecurities that both partner nurse. Your partner may want sex a particular way but feeling hesitant to discuss it with his/her partner.
He is worried about hurting your feelings or sending the wrong signals which might lead to a strain in the relationship.
As a result, you’re just further ingraining bad habits instead of correcting them.
Here’s what you might need to know about your performance in the bedroom, sitting room or anywhere you may deem fit to have it.
1. Don’t always wait for him to initiate.
Sex may not be on our mind until you put it there. If you’re in the mood, but he’s not acting, go for it.
Some men love women who are bold and daring. Explore every part of him because you own him, at least at that moment. Discover sensitive spot and make good use of it either with your mouth or hands.
2. He is not trusting that you’re on birth control until you tell him.
Don’t take it personally. It’s a huge risk to take. Use contraceptives or insist that you have protected sex. Don’t be carried away that you want to satisfy him remember he will shift the blame once an unwanted pregnancy surfaces.
3. Condoms are going to make it take awhile.
They’re desensitizing. If he’s taking too long, be prepared to finish things by other means. More foreplay can also help.
4. Sex is a lot of cardio.
It really helps when you go on top or otherwise take control. Sometimes he just wants to enjoy the sight of you being in charge and he follows. Sometimes he is also tired and wants you to do the work.
5. Talk dirty.
The sexiest move in the bedroom is enthusiasm, describe what you are going to do to him. Whisper sweet nothings in his ears and don’t fall short of expectation.
6. Men don’t want their woman to do anything halfway, especially oral.
It could be frustrating especially if it is a habit. If you could describe any act you’re partaking in as “dutiful” or “half-hearted,” then he’s not enjoying. Take your time and give him the best time of his life.
7. Don’t worry, he loves how you taste down there.
Many women can be self-conscious or worried that he smells them during sex. Just do your path and ensure good hygiene of your vagina and leave the rest for him to figure out. The woman body is built in such a way that you know if you’re clean or not.
8. He also needs foreplay, romance, too.
So much of the fun of sex is in the mind. A lot of it is about the buildup and anticipation. Just as you need foreplay to fully enjoy the experience, so does he.
Don’t ever forget the romance. Men are not just cavemen looking to score.
9. Seduction is the emotional aspect of sex.
A lot of men loves to be seduced by his woman. Seducing a man isn’t as difficult as you think. The fact is to seduce a man, you first have to seduce yourself. Seducing a man is an art and one that’s thoroughly enjoyable. Just watching a man feel flustered and awkward because of the sexual tension you’ve created is a rush that can score your point. However, don’t frustrate him and keep him waiting too long.
10. Remember that communication is key.
Don’t let him waste five minutes doing something that’s not working for anybody. Sex isn’t the time to be shy and polite. He wants you to tell him he is working or what you need, and everyone will be happier.
Source:Yourtango
